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Is Ashton Cheating on Demi? The warning signs that your spouse or boyfriend is cheating.
People Magazine is reporting that Ashton Kutcher has been caught cheating on Demi Moore, his wife of nearly five years. I have to say, that although the evidence seems to be stacking up, I really do hope that the allegations are unfounded. I’ve long thought that they made a pretty compatible couple — it would be a shame to see it all fall apart.
That said, you may be wondering about the warning signs of a cheating partner.
Watch out for the pre-paid cell phone or pager (no bill, no evidence), and odd phone numbers in his phone, text history, or found in his pockets, written on receipts or other little scraps of paper. Does he call at all hours? Hang up on you when he’s mad? Both are signs of a lack of impulse control.
He’s working late all the time, or the big boss needs him to come in on Saturday (again) for yet another emergency presentation on the Doggy Delicious account. It has been widely reported that 70% of affairs happen on the job, and even if he’s not fooling around at work, he may using his job as a cover. Don Draper, I’m talking to you.
He drives like a lunatic, honks at old ladies who don’t have the good sense to go eighty on the freeway, and sees the shoulder as his own personal expressway during rush hour, a classic sign of putting himself before everybody else.
His girlfriend is too jealous, his boss is too stupid, and the rest of the planet just doesn’t get it. Does your guy think he can do no wrong? When the Blaming Boy breaks the rules, it’s the rule that was wrong, not him. He may have cheated, but it’s your fault.
Frequently when a guy starts cheating, he makes changes to his appearance. Maybe your man starts working out after six years of bliss on the couch. Maybe he has a sudden interest in Armani when nacho cheese-covered Chinos have always been just fine. Whether it’s a new gym membership or a new cologne, big appearance changes can mean big trouble.
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So what should you do if you suspect your partner is cheating? Throw his clothes out on the lawn? Quit your job and trail him like you’re trying out for a cameo on Law & Order?
There’s only one way to find out. (Unless you, like Demi, have the paparazzi trailing you and your husband 24 hours a day.) Don’t confront a cheater until you have enough evidence to prove he’s really heating, otherwise, he’ll just deny it. Collect as much proof as you can, and then confront him with the facts. The only way to move forward is to get it all on the table.
Actually, on second thought, go ahead and throw his clothes on the lawn. If you stay with a cheater, you’re only proving to him that he can sleep around with little or no penalty. Find somebody faithful. Otherwise you’re just cheating yourself.
For more on this topic, pick up Lisa Daily’s bestselling dating book, STOP GETTING DUMPED!
or her latest book, Is He Cheating? Crack the cheat code and find out right now if he is cheating or not, why he cheats, and what you need to do next
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