This Week on Daytime: 6 Signs There Won’t Be a Second Date

February 21, 2009

Lisa Daily Daytime Show

This week on Daytime:

Crash and Burn-ology: 6 Signs There Won’t Be A Second Date by Lisa Daily

You like him, but does he really like you? Is there any way to tell how well a first date is going? This Monday on Daytime I’ll talk about the signs to look for on your first date to tell if it’s going south, plus what you can do to save the date.

1) What day of the week did your date ask you out?
It’s generally a good sign if your date asks you out with a few days notice — it means he’s thinking about you and wants to lock in weekend plans. Bad sign? If he calls you a few hours before he wants to go out. Usually that means you were the date of last resort, or he had a cancellation.

First Date Fix: Don’t make a last-minute date. If he likes you, he’ll give you more notice next time. If not, he’ll get the message that you’re not a last-minute booty call and go elsewhere. Either way, you’re better off.

2) Is your date preening?
When we like someone, our body language gives us away. If the first date is going well, your date will subconsciously exhibit “preening” behaviors. For women, this means checking or reapplying lipstick, fluffing, flipping, or brushing back your hair, or smoothing your clothes. If a man is into you, he’ll straighten his tie, pull up his socks, smooth back his hair.

First Date Disaster: A date who doesn’t exhibit any preening behaviors at all is very likely not interested.

3) What is the surest sign during dinner that the date is going badly?
If your date is sitting back in his chair with his arms crossed over his (or her) chest, it’s a sign your date is closed off, angry, defensive, or irritated. Whatever the emotion he (or she) is feeling, it’s not good.

First Date Fix: Try relaxing your body language with an open posture (shoulders relaxed, arms down, palms up) and smile kindly. Nod your head as he or she is speaking. Then slowly, over the course of a few minutes, gradually lean forward towards your date, (without invading his or her personal space.) Frequently, the relaxed stance of another person can make us feel more open and relaxed when we’re closed off.

4) What does the length of the date tell you?
The planned length of the date tells you nothing. Some people like to have dinner on the first date, some people like to meet for drinks or coffee, and see where things go. The surest sign a date is not going well is if the date ends promptly after the scheduled event. (As in, thanks for the drink, nice to meet you, see ya around…)

Signs the date is going well?
If your date wants to extend your plans, suggesting dinner after your scheduled drinks, or going to a club after your scheduled dinner. If he’s looking to keep you around a little longer than you’d planned for, this is a sign things are going better than expected.

5) What does the “doorstep moment” tell you?
If you’re lingering on the doorstep, it’s a good sign that you’re stalling (hoping) for a goodnight smooch.

Signs the date has gone south?
She’s got her keys in her hand before the car rolls to a stop, she offers a handshake instead of a lip-lock.

6) What does it mean when a date says “I’ll call you”?

Nothing. For men, it’s the least stressful way to end a date.

What to Watch For: If he calls, he’s most likely to do it within the first 72 hours. If it doesn’t happen by day 3, the odds go down dramatically. (And if he DOES call you two weeks or two months later, do you really want to date someone who wasn’t any more motivated to follow up after a good date? Probably not.)

You might also like this handy dandy dating advice book, guaranteed to help you find your own happily ever after How to Date Like a Grown-Up: Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky, or Even Get Married in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond

Lisa appears every Tuesday on Daytime, check your local TV listings for times and stations.

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MaryAnna February 22, 2009 at 9:42 am

Hey Lisa,

Practical advice with a humorous and embracing tone! good advice while greatly entertaining. I am in the 50+ contingency and do a bit of writing along those love lines. You can find me at

Let me know if you want to join up at some point. In the meantime, keep up the excellent work!


Lisa March 30, 2013 at 2:36 pm

Thanks for the lovely comment, you have a great blog!


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