Advice for Dating: 5 Secrets for Attracting Guys Like Ants to Grape Jelly

February 14, 2002

Lisa-Daily-bestselling-author5 Secrets To Attract Guys Like Ants to Grape Jelly
By Lisa Daily

Want to quintuple your odds of winning in the dating game? You just need to know how to work it, dreamgirl:


Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books and nationally-known expert in the field of spatial psychology, where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract guys. Where should you be for the highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a bit. (But don’t pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake…)

When attracting guys in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but, according to Mehrabian, bartenders tend to gravitate toward the corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink? You’ll feel like you’ve died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table. That hot stranger approaching your table and asking “may I join you” only happens in the movies.


What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you?

Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood, says women should wear a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The color is “very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow,” and according to Eiseman, projects “a little vulnerability which brings out something protective in men.”

Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can’t handle strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who aren’t attracted to strong women will steer clear.

Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with caution. “Red is the color of sex and power,” says Eiseman. Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of men – men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful women. Sure, you’ll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, but you could also end up attracting guys who aren’t threatened by the fact that you make a bigger salary.

Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what Eiseman calls “squished caterpillar yellow-green” which is said to repel both sexes equally.

Want to know what color the dream guys will be wearing this year?

It’s blue. According to Eiseman, guys who frequently wear blue are “stable, faithful, constant and always there.” The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship — he’s dependable, monogamous and can match his own clothes.


How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex?

The key is to make yourself approachable. According to nationally-respected body language expert and professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a “safe” (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish that? Don’t take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and superiority.) Wood says, “we are strong women, but remember, we’re trying to get a man to come over and talk to us.” She explains, “you have to show you have room for someone else in your life.”

In addition, Wood says “to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward. ” Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt – signal you’re listening to what the other person has to say.

Body language tips for both sexes: Don’t fold your arms and don’t chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions.


Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal “I’m having a great time and I’m happy to be here” face will do the trick. According to Wood, “the smile is the international signal of friendliness.”


Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking some ready-made cinnamon rolls (or my  practically world-famous Man Magnet Cake) about an hour before your date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume (there’s a fabulous cinnamon vanilla scent called “Man Magnet” at

Aromatherapy experts have long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac, and they’re right.  Research at the University of Chicago found that men are attracted to the scents of cinnamon and vanilla. (And pepperoni pizza, but it’s tougher to make that work as an everyday scent.)

According to Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert , and owner of Herban Avenues, “certain aromatic plants exude oils similar to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. Wearing cinnamon/vanilla perfume blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction.”

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