Advice for dating : How to find out what you REALLY want to know on a first date.

April 5, 2011


Be sure to tune in to Daytime on Tuesday, April 5 when I’ll be talking about which low-risk questions you should ask on a first date to find out what you really want to know

Advice for Dating: First Date Questions That Give the Answers to Unspeakable Truths

Everybody knows that first dates are awkward, mostly because you’re trying to learn as much about the person as you can in the least amount of time, without getting a drink thrown in your face, or ditched the second you head for the ladies room. But how can you find out what you really want to know about your date’s views on commitment, or politics or religion if it’s rude to come right out and ask?

Once again, the genius number crunchers over at OKCupid compiled and sifted through the data of their 7 million or so members, looking for questions that were fairly benign and easy to ask, but that correlated to some deeper, unspeakable truth. (As in, what are the chances that you and I are going to end up in a relationship, or, you know, bed?) The questions are weird, for sure. But they might just give you all the answers you’re looking for.

What question should you ask if you want to know if you’re going to get lucky on the first date?

Ask: Do you like the taste of beer?
Why? People who like the taste of beer are 60% more likely to think it’s okay to sleep with someone on the first date. True for both men and women, straight and gay.

What question should you ask if you want to know if you and your date have long term potential?
Ask 3 questions actually:
Do you like horror movies?
Have you ever traveled around another country alone?
Wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?

What they say doesn’t matter so much as whether or not their answers match with yours. 32% of successful couples agreed on all three questions, which 3.7 times the usual. What’s more interesting — these questions were a better predictor than sharing beliefs in God, sex & smoking.

What question should you ask if you want to know if you and your date share the same politics?

Ask: Do you prefer the people in your life to be simple or complex?

If your date answers “simple” they’re most likely (2:1) a republican, if they answered “complex” they’re most likely a dem (2:1).

What question should you ask if you want to know if your date is religious?

Ask: Do spelling and grammar mistakes annoy you?

If your date answers no, they’re not particularly annoyed with bad grammar and spelling, the odds of he/she being at least moderately religious is slightly better than 2:1.

Bad spelling and grammar make me crazy. I’m not sure if this is because I’m a writer, or because I’m not particularly religious. (I have a strong belief system, I just find it tough to get on board with organized religion.)

All for now. For more on what to do on a first date, check out Stop Getting Dumped!, which has a lot of first date strategies.


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