In honor of International Cat Day, I’m re-posting a video I did a few years ago about how your cat(s) (and conversely, if you’re a guy, your snake…) might be making you less datable online. I know you love Fluffers to the moon and back — maybe just save him for like, date 3.
THE BEST PLACES TO MEET SOMEONE THIS SUMMER: The warm summer months offer lots of opportunities for fun dates and meeting somebody great. If you’re looking to meet someone who heats up your summer, check out this week’s Daytime segment, where I’ll be filling you in on some of my favorite (and weirdly unexpected) summer hot spots for finding love.
How fast do you know if you’ve met “The One”? Who falls in love faster, men or women? This week on the Daytime Show Cyndi Edwards and I talked about a brand new study from Plenty Of Fish that found some fascinating insights on love at first sight, how long it really takes to know if he’s “The One”, and what that concept even means. (Similar tastes in burrito toppings? A willingness to massage your feet”
We’ve all heard the expression “Netflix and chill” as a term for staying in, snuggling on the couch and binge-watching your favorite shows together with your sweetie. (One of my FAVORITE dates, btw.) But guess what? A recent study found that your Netflix and chill habits might actually have an impact on your relationships. This week on Daytime I talked with Cyndi Edwards and Jerry Pennacoli about Netflix, your favorite shows, and love. Check out the video below.
(And thanks, fellow well-meaning grammar fanatics. I know the posted video says “effects” not “affects” — Daytime has been alerted
Do you find yourself attracted to married or unavailable partners? Do you love the challenge? Or the thrill of seeing if you can get him to choose you over someone else? Do you fall for guys who just can’t or won’t give you their full attention or desire? You know, the workaholics, addicts, commitment-phobes, and the I love you but I don’t know if I’m in love with you types. Well, it turns out your brain may be to blame. Today on the Daytime Show I talked with Michelle Phillips about a new study that found that mate-poachers’ brains are actually wired differently than everyone else’s.
Memorial Day kicks off the summer social, dating, and party season — and just in case you’re still on the fence about hitting that Memorial Day BBQ, I’d like to offer up a little incentive for my single friends out there.
Six Degrees of BBQ is one of my absolute favorite ways to meet someone great. You know how you always invite the same seventeen people to all of your parties? Next time, add some new blood to the old gang. With Six Degrees of BBQ, everybody you invite brings someone that nobody else in the group knows. Think of it as six degrees of separation, only backwards. Voila! You’ll have a party full of brand-new people who already get along great with your closest friends. Kind of a “people potluck.”
Here’s why it works: Research shows that we tend to have lots of things in common (level of education, happiness, intelligence, career standing, values about issues like money and politics, as well as similar levels of mental health, etc) with people who are already tight with our closest friends. But there’s even more — those similarities extend to things like what neighborhoods we live in, the dry cleaner or peanut butter we prefer, and whether we get our pasta sauce at Trader Joe’s or the Piggly Wiggly.
We attract and seek out friendships and relationships with other people who are a lot like us. Everybody does, which is why it’s way easier to meet someone you’re compatible with if they’ve already been “pre-screened” by your friends, or your friends’ friends than say, via an online dating site or Tinder.
So for your next party, ask all your friends to bring a friend nobody else knows. You never know who you might meet.
As most of you know, I’ve been the dating, love and relationships expert on the nationally-syndicated Daytime Show for about 10 years now, and it’s been a total blast. Everybody at the show is amazing, you’ll never meet a cooler, smarter, nicer bunch of people.
Our fabulous Daytime co-host Jerry Pennacoli was out for several weeks after surgery, and Daytime brought in some pretty interesting co-hosts to keep the fabulous Cyndi Edwards company during his absence.
Lucky, lucky me, our terrific producer Alyssa asked me if I’d co-host the show (um, YEAH!!!!) and my lifelong dream of being Oprah Winfrey or the gorgeous, super smart, just-as-nice-in-person-as-she-is-on-TV Cyndi Edwards for a day was fulfilled.
What did that printer ever do to me? Plenty.
Because the producers and crew are the greatest, they put together pretty much the most fun show ever. We hypnotized a doctor. (Bye, bye arachnophobia) We had a little fashion show. We made some shrimp lettuce wraps (note to self– do not eat messy food on TV.) We hung out with Spidey-Bolt. And we smashed the hell out of a tower of printers and fax machines a la Office Space. With baseball bats. And safety glasses.
I highly recommend it if you ever have the opportunity, afterwards I felt like I’d spent the day at a spa. I’ll admit it, I was into it. Totally into it.
My guest hosting TV intro is below if you’d like to take a peek. And I’ve posted some more pics of the day below the video.
A HUGE thanks to everybody at Daytime for making the experience so amazing. And thanks to everybody for watching
Are you a human hoarder? Should you stay social media friends with your ex? This is a question I get a TON from readers — not just from daters wondering what dating etiquette says about unfriending someone you’ve slept with, but often because you’re in a new relationship and you find yourself really uncomfortable about the fact that your new boyfriend or girlfriend is still getting regular social media updates (and vacation photos, and selfies) from the person they’ve supposedly moved on from.
Now, it certainly SEEMS like the grown-up thing to do. To stay friendly. After all, you did like/date/love this person (or at least make out with them) at one point. Shouldn’t you keep them around?
The answer is no.
A recent study found that if you do tend to collect your exes on social media, you’re likely to be a psychopath. Or have psychopathic/narcissistic tendencies. Why? People who stay friends or continue to follow their exes tend to exhibit the “dark triad” of personality traits. And while staying friendly with all your exes might seem like you’re just a well-adjusted guy or girl, you’re most likely doing it for some personal gain — keeping them on the string to feed your ego (narcissistic supply) or for future sexual access.
Last week on Daytime, I talked about why staying friendly with an ex on your social media is actually hurting you (it takes wayyyyy longer to get over a break-up), it makes you prone to cyber-stalking behavior, and often screws things up with your new relationship. And we’ll talk about what to do if you just can’t seem to let go.
Check out the clip below. Or you can go ahead, and just keep following your ex.
This week on Daytime, I’m going to tell you 5 easy online dating profile hacks to make you more popular online.
Aside from the tips in the fun infographic below, I’ve got a few more profile-boosting tidbits for you, including what poses to use in your online dating profile and what color you should wear: Red for ladies (grabs attention, raises the heart rate) and blue for guys (signals you’re a nice guy who can match his own clothes.)