The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You Review by Lisa Daily
Back in 2001 when this book was published, the author used the term HSP (High Sensitivity Person)to describe bright people, with a highly tuned nervous system, sometimes overwhelming sensitivities, and a high capacity for deep reflection. Today, this phenomenon is more likely to be called a sensory processing disorder, a common trait among those who are intellectually gifted.
Dating is already more challenging for smart people because they have a smaller pool of eligible partners to choose from, and they tend to be picky. But when you add sensory processing issues into the mix, things become even more challenging. If you are an HSP or you love one, I highly recommend this book. The coping strategies are helpful, but just knowing that there are lots of other people out there with the same challenges makes it all feel a little less lonely.
Do you fall in love hard, but fear intimacy? Are you sick of being told that you are “too sensitive”? Do you struggle to respect a less-sensitive partner? Or have you given up on love, afraid of being too sensitive or shy to endure its wounds?
Statistics show that 50 percent of what determines divorce is genetic temperament. And, if you are one of the 20 percent of people who are born highly sensitive, the risk of an unhappy relationship is especially high. Your finely tuned nervous system, which picks up on subtleties and reflects deeply, would be a romantic asset if both you and your partner understood you better. But without that understanding, your sensitivity is likely to be making your close relationships painful and complicated.
Based on Elaine N. Aron’s groundbreaking research on temperament and intimacy, The Highly Sensitive Person in Love offers practical help for highly sensitive people seeking happier, healthier romantic relationships. From low-stress fighting to sensitive sexuality, the book offers a wealth of practical advice on making the most of all personality combinations. Complete with illuminating self-tests and the results of the first survey ever done on sex and temperament, The Highly Sensitive Person in Love will help you discover a better way of living and loving.
- Paperback: 272 pages
- Publisher: Three Rivers Press (January 9, 2001)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0767903366
- ISBN-13: 978-0767903363
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.7 x 8.2 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8.5 ounces