Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life

Think about it. It’s really not that hard. Would you rather live the rest of your life with a smile on your face and a spring in your step or do you want to continue suffering silently because you’re a guy and that’s what guys do?

Seriously. Do you want to stumble through life with that unhealed hole in your chest?

If the smile and the spring sound good, let Friedman and James teach you how to once and for all put that old relationship behind you. It’s a process. They’ll walk you through it.

No meetings to attend.

No awkward moments.

No one will ever know.

This book has helped me move on while maintaining/remembering what I loved so as not to lose the best parts but rather to complete them so that it’s all a part of me and my life experience. My heart was broken when my marriage ended even though I was clear that it had to. I wondered why, and even more, I wondered what I had done wrong. “Moving On” gave me the tools to heal and as a result, my heart opened even more. The exercises helped me clean up the debris, in which was hidden the shrapnel that continued to wound me afterwards. I also became clear that it’s not about understanding What happened or who’s wrong or right, but getting complete with the past so I can live in present time. To be honest, I won’t say that I’m glad that I had to use this book, but I’m sure glad I found it. If you’re reading this it’s my guess you will be too.

Wow, I must say that I did not expect to discover anything new in regards to past Romantic relationships. I say that because I’ve actually done a lot of Grief work over the last 3 years since being introduced to The Grief Recovery Outreach Program & Institute. I’d been waiting for their relationship book to come out. I was eager to read it just so that I could refer others to it that may not have seen any other reason to even consider unresolved grief. To my surprise I discovered more things that I personally needed to complete. All I can say is that this is not just another relationship book. It’s truly a step by step guide to finishing unresolved and unfinished emotional business that can keep one stuck in the past and unable to move forward. This systematic approach is truly liberating. Thank you Russell and John.

Happy Holidays,

MYH

I am amazed that those old tricks (1.Don’t feel bad. 2.Replace the loss. 3. Grieve alone. 4. Time heals all wounds. 5. Be strong. 6. Keep busy.) don’t work but actually make things even worse. I always hate when people patronize me with “Be strong. Time heals all wounds. Don’t feel bad, you will find someone better. Blah, blah.”. Now I finally know the reason why I hate them, because I don’t feel even a little better after hearing those, but instead feel I am pushed to not to show negative feelings. And, yes, the one I hate the most:”let it go, just move on.” How can I magically let it go and then move on? Most people are just emotion morons. I suggest that everyone should read this book, for ourselves and for our families and friends. Try to truly support them when they are going through difficult time, other than pushing them away by saying those cliche.

I read the whole book in three days and I must admit I did the exercises in my mind rather then on paper.I have to say I think this book is for someone that has gone through a breakup and is over that initial heartbreak. I actually felt like the book made my heart ache get worse because it made me think of all the good times we had together. I’m not saying it’s not a good book but it’s probably a book that I should read after I’m at least over the person I’m in love with and I can think about them without getting too emotional. If your breakup is recent and u are looking for a book to make u feel better then this is not the book in my opinion. If you are over the initial hurting phase and are looking for a book to help you not make the same mistakes and improve future relationships then this a good book to have.

Have you ever met someone who goes on and on about how horrible their “ex” is? I’ve been known to have some less than flattering words about some of my exes. I’ve always looked backed at my relationships focusing on what they did wrong.

In “Moving On”, I learned how to look at both their part and MY part. (we are not all as perfect as we may think I now see there has been a pattern, and more importantly, my part in it. I can’t change their behavior, but I can certainly change mine.

Closure is something I thought I’d never have, especially with relationships more than 20 years old, but thanks to this book – I’m discovering a way to let go and say “goodbye”. It feels better than almost anything I’ve ever done.

Thanks to Russell and John for having the guts to share your own stories and to helping me with mine.

WOW!!! It’s ALL between the covers of this little jewel…THE WHOLE PACKAGE in a readable, doable, no psycho-babble, ANTIDOTE to relationship failure. The folks who wrote the definitive resource on Grief Recovery have hit a Home Run in the relationship department. This book moves way past in-formation and offers trans-formation to all who are willing to stop watering plastic flowers.

As a pastor, I believe this book should be a required text/process for ALL pre-marriage counseling.

This clear and complete approach offers real hope to all who have been longing and searching for a life-long romantic relationship, but have missed the mark. The action steps in this book WILL help participants identify and unpack the emotional baggage that sabotages relationships, but more importantly, it gives clear and simple (not necessarily easy) steps to change the habits that poison future relationships. Healing your broken heart is a nice little ‘ADDED BONUS’ of this process.

In this GROUND BREAKING book, Friedman and James show you how to quit doing what you’ve always done so you can quit getting what you’ve always got!

Five Stars aren’t nearly enough to convey the value of this MASTERPIECE!!!!

Despite the peachy pinky cover splashed with hearts and the amusing subtitle which might lead you to think that this is a quick read and you’re done like a poor pop-psych book, in actuality “Moving On” is a deep work, complete with a clear process and clear action steps, to unpack your emotional baggage which we have all built up over a lifetime of losses.

Many people might not immediately think this book pertains to them unless they have just come out of a divorce or lost a spouse to death. However, who of us has not had an unrequited crush on someone? And what about those failed and ended love relationships in college? Didn’t they leave their mark your heart in some manner either with additional armor or a tendency especially to “feel” things?

This book and the Grief Recovery process from the Grief Recovery Institute aids each of us in unpacking our baggage, down from carrying a few steamer trunks to merely some carry-on and 1 checked bag (lol). So we are more fully equipped to attract, create, and sustain real intimacy in our relationships.

Highly recommend. Get two copies. You will be doing the exercises with a partner/friend.

Until I read what John James and Russell Friedman had to say about relationships, I didn’t realize that I was going into each new relationship with less and less of my heart available. Beginning with the action plan of their previous “Grief Recovery Handbook” and continuing with their new book, “Moving On,” I have learned how to complete the loss of past relationships and move into new ones with my heart healed and open. No longer do I carry around the baggage that I gripped tightly, not knowing how to put it down. John and Russell are life-savers and this book is a must-read. I will be buying dozens of copies to give for Christmas!!!

Maybe you don’t want to know what lies at the root of the string of broken relationships that are all you have to look back on right now? Or, maybe you do? This book, Moving On, isn’t going to solve all of your problems for you; but it will help you uncover that root you don’t even know is there. And that’s going to be a first step. Maybe even a few more.