Unleash Your Irresistibility!
"Make Every Man Want You gives every woman the tools she needs to unlock her inner magnet."
Let's make one thing clear: this book is like no other dating book you've read. There are no rules, no list of things to do to land a husband in thirty days, and no reason to blame yourself if “he's just not that into you.” Please. Throw those books away.
Instead, let's focus on you–and how you can make yourself more appealing to others in almost every situation–whether you have a man or not. Think of it as a crash course in desirability, a life-changing lesson in loving yourself inside and out. Once you embrace your unique qualities and dissolve your bad relationship habits, you'll be amazed to find how irresistible you are to others! This girl-friendly guide reveals: Five Truths Every Irresistible Woman Needs to Know: Live in the moment, Men do not want to be changed or improved Seven Habits of Highly Unattractive Women: Boring in bed, Being needy Eight Secrets of Attracting the Right Man for You: Get rid of your "perfect man" checklist, Have your own life
- Paperback: 172 pages
- Publisher: McGraw-Hill; 1 edition (April 4, 2008)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0071597816
- ISBN-13: 978-0071597814
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.5 x 8.3 inches
- Shipping Weight: 2.4 ounces
Not Worth Your Time or Money
Sadly, this was indeed a case of GREAT marketing… way too great. The title completely oversold the book. What I expected to read was a helpful guide overviewing some of the pitfalls that trip up women and make them self-sabotage on dates. What I found instead was a useless pep talk written by someone who honestly comes across as a 20-year-old college cheerleader. “You’re so fabulous!!” and “You are an amazing, irresistable woman!” scream up at you from every page until you want to shake the book and throw it against the wall. Honestly. I wanted to yell, “I know that! I have a graduate degree, I’m not a moron! Tell me something useful.” I completely agree with the reviewer who said that Forleo doesn’t present a single original idea in this entire book. It’s basically a book of other people’s thoughts cobbled together in the peppy cheerleader voice. Some highlights:
– You’re irresistable!
– Live in the moment! That’s all there is!
– Embrace your is-ness (does this remind ANYONE else of You, Me and Dupree when Owen Wilson becomes famous for his series of books and lectures on “harnessing your inner ‘ness’”??? No? Just me?)
– Love is not eternal, so don’t be surprised when your husband, boyfriend, lover falls out of love with you
– Take care of yourself physically so guys will notice how irresistable you actually are! (really? I needed a book to tell me that?)
– Don’t quit your hobbies when you get a boyfriend (again… seriously?)
I found the middle two the most annoying. I spent 15 bucks to have someone tell me to embrace my inner is-ness?? I mean, maybe if it were Dale Carnegie and he were saying it in his winning, proven way. But peppy cheerleader? No thanks. The other one was about love being transitory. I just found this sad. Do you really want to read a book by someone who says that love doesn’t last and that you should only stay together as long as it does? She’s not talking about love, people. She’s talking about lust. The whole NATURE of love is that its forever. I know I’ll meet with some disagreement on this front, but I stand by it. I don’t want to read a book about dating by someone who doesn’t even believe in love.
All in all, this book is just a waste of your resources. I thought Have Him At Hello was much better. I was at Barnes and Noble one day and glanced at it, then quickly got sucked in when I saw the immense amount of time and research that went into writing it. The book is written by a Harvard MBA who interviewed a thousand men, often spending 30-45 minutes with just one guy! She talks about her findings from the guys’ perspective on what makes them decline to ask you out for a second date
Do not buy this book.
That’s it. No need for you folks to buy the book. Those three ideas are essentially IT. I realllllly don’t appreciate an author who admits within the first few pages that she’s lied to us all via her title to get us to buy her book! What would make me want to trust a bit of advice she has to offer after that? Hm?
Change your thinking, change your life
2) Make you the center of your life, not him. Have a life first, take care of yourself, and your man will want to do the same for you. That way, you won’t be looking to him to complete you. (Because you are already complete!) Both you and he will be happier.
What I liked most about this book is that she shows you how to move beyond “the rules” and still have a satisfying relationship with your guy. As a former “rules” adherrent, I find her approach to be freeing and more natural. Ultimately, that’s what we want – to be loved and accepted just the way we are. Not because we executed a set of dating techniques well. It’s not about manipulation. It’s about living your authentic truths. Doing what makes you happy. (From personal experience: when you’re happy, he’s happy.) It’s not about men vs women. It’s about your collective truths – your truths, his truths – getting to know each other as unique individuals. That takes a little more work than following a set of arbitrary rules, but it is well worth it.
This book is unlike any other dating advice book I’ve ever read. It focuses on showing you how to take care of yourself first, and then how the rest (including your romantic life) will just fall into place. It is the advice women sorely need to hear. Pick this up. Your happier life begins now. Good luck!
Easier said than done
There are parts to the two negative reviews that I acknowledge and do agree with, which are: 1) the book is told in a peppy cheerleader tone which is at times, annoying and distracting, 2) The underlying messages in the book are few, simple, and straightforward. But if you can ignore the way the message is delivered, you can focus on the actual message. And even if the messages are few and simple, that doesn’t mean they’re not worth reading or applying in your life.
I’m actually only halfway through the book, but I really liked this fact the author shared with us: “Humans have approx. 50-60,000 thoughts per day. 95% of those thoughts are the same ones we had yesterday. This thinking is repetitive, illusory, and toxic.” I do believe women get into these self-perpetuating cycles of complaining and perceived helplessness toward certain areas of life. This type of thinking is pervasive and we’d all be better off without it. This book wakes you up to it, and pep-talks you into shedding complacency with mediocrity, and becoming accountable for (the results in) and fully engaged in all areas of your life. Beyond this, it also gives *terrific* relationship tips. Easier to say/read than to follow, but this book is not a quick fix. It is for those of us who want to improve the quality and meaning in our lives/relationships. The book doesn’t give us a magical key to perfect relationships, but it does make the process faster than it otherwise might take by pointing us in the right direction.
If you think your life and your relationships are perfect, if you are so sure you know everything there is to know about love, life, and fulfilling relationships, then don’t waste your money on this book. Everyone else, pick up this book. While I don’t think her points are completely new and groundbreaking, they are well-presented in a way that I believe most women can relate to, and use to evaluate herself, her life, and her relationships.
Irresistible new dating book for women
irresistible you’ll barely keep from dating yourself, is a revised edition of a previous ebook by Marie Forleo. The book title alone is more irresistible then most books of this nature.and suggests a very upbeat author. Yes, Marie happens to be a life coach, dance instructor and choreographer for MTV, VH1 and so forth.
Her writing style is really sharp, crystal clear, to the point, no B.S. that I wish more self-help authors would embrace. Don’t go around the long (wrong) way when you can cut through the forest and get to the other side quicker, and with more learning.
The first chapter, Irresistibility 101, reads like the advice from the Tao Te Ching. Most adults, men and women, seem to loose the child-like-ness when we grow up. And being like a child is sometimes irresistible. Just think about how some children can just get what they want, or how they can get out of trouble by being cute, cuddly and of course irresistible. There is a lesson here to be learnt. Let go and be in the now is the sage advice also found in Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now.
One thing I like about Marie is how direct she is in her advice. And one thing I’ve heard her say in a previous interview and I fully agree with, and emphasise in my own discussions of relationships is this: You are likely operating on false information. For me one of the greatest sources of dating/relationship problems stems from divorced parents. In
my own situation my mother and father divorced when I was maybe two years old. My dad remarried and my mother had a long term relationship. My dad’s 2nd wife passed away and his been alone since; while my mother’s long term relationship ended when she got pregnant with my sister. After years of frustration I just realised these two are NOT good role models for how to create and maintain, sustain a healthy, loving and fun long term relationship with a woman.
The “Time-Tested Truths” from Chapter 3 almost read like the Four Noble Truths in Buddhism. Just kidding they are solid and I’m listing them here to let them speak for themselves:
1. A Relationship Will Not Save You
2. Relationships Are Spiritual Opportunities, Not a Needs Exchange
3. Life Is Now: This Is It!
4. Men Are As-Is Merchandise or Love ‘Em or Leave ‘Em, Baby!
5. If You Want Guarantees In Love, You Don’t Want Love
In the next chapter one of the most honest, and funniest lines I’ve ever read in a book like this, and said by a woman: “Here’s a tip: If you think you look fat in a particular outfit, you probably do. This whole chapter is the perfect blue print for a woman to know what NOT to do. And Marie’s chapter titles are as spunky and funny as the book title.
All in all there are plenty of gems in this book. And will become my bible for advice to the female species So many books go on and on without getting to the point. Marie just knows how to make the point with enough irresistibility you can’t put this book down once you start reading it. I have female friend, Leonora or Leo for short who does all these things without knowing it. She is a magnet for irresistible attention from men. And has some amazing girlfriends. So unlike those really attractive women who are hated by others, Leo is able to project her irresistible nature to the world. And therefore draws constant attention which she directs which ever way suits her best. And the outcome or result? Well happiness or rather inner joy. Because I learnt a while ago that happiness is what you expect other people to “give” you but joy is what you have inside. And nobody can take that away from you.
Make Everyone Want You
I would have never picked this book up (since I’m married) except that Marie and I are in a mastermind group together. But I am SO GLAD that I bought and read her book, because I immediately put into practice & changed some little but major things in my life that have already improved my happiness and my relationship with my husband.
The #1 lesson I put into practice: “Life Is Now, This Is It.” My husband and I have been planning to sell our house and move for ages. So I let it go — clutter filled out house, stuff was broken, because it was like, what’s the point? We are going to sell anyway. So we lived in a house we hated. For years.
Right after I finished the book I spent an hour or two cleaning up the front yard & porch — got rid of a dead bush & junky college-like plastic furniture, and bought 3 new plants & pots for the porch. Wow. What a transformation. Then I de-cluttered the living room & kitchen, got a handyman service to spend 2 hours fixing broken stuff, took 2 loads to charity, and started spending 15 minutes a day just tidying the house.
Having a nice place to hang out w/ my husband has improved my marriage & de-stressed my life — and reduced my level of frustration because I live in a peaceful environment.
If you just want a few “rules” to follow to trick a man to love you, don’t read this book. But if you want to learn how to have an amazing life (with or without a sig other), check out Marie’s book!
A New Perspective On Dating, That Works
I’ve already seen results (and yes – I’m a guy!). For one I am more datable. I’ve begun to discover my own irresistibility. And all of that comes from an honest place, I don’t have to manufacture anything to get there. And I am having so much more fun on dates. I’m not wasting time having thoughts like, “Is she the one? What should I say now? Should I go for the kiss?” Oh yes, I really did have these thoughts. To be honest, I think most people do. But now I’m just enjoying myself instead. If a date goes well,
that’s great. If a date doesn’t go well, that’s great, too. It’s so easy. And it’s so real.
Firecracker of a Book!
If you love Marie’s book and are interested in reading more about developing healthy relationships with yourself and others, I recommend that you also read the work of Ariel and Shya Kane whom she acknowledges as her friends and mentors. Their books Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment and How to Create a Magical Relationship are wonderful introductions to the gentle art of creating magic by living in the now.