Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder is a first of its kind book—written specifically for the partner of a person with bipolar disorder. If you have a loved one with bipolar, you know how disruptive and straining this disorder can be to your relationship. You may experience feelings of fear, loss, and anxiety as well as a constant uncertainly about your loved one’s ever-changing moods.
This book is designed to help you overcome the unique challenges of loving someone with bipolar disorder. With the supportive and helpful information, strategies, and real-life examples contained here, you’ll have all the tools you need to create a loving, healthy, and close relationship.
Find out how to: Identify which coping approaches work and which do not Recognize and transform a “bipolar conversation” Use new strategies to help manage episodic crises Survive the financial turbulence manic spending may cause Deal with problematic sexual issues Increase closeness and stability in your relationship
- Paperback: 238 pages
- Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1st edition (February 1, 2004)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1572243422
- ISBN-13: 978-1572243422
- Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.5 x 9 inches
- Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
Help in Understanding this terrible condition
What I enjoyed about this book is that it gave me a greater sense of understanding of my mother’s erratic behavior, and illness. I have bipolar also, but very mildly so. My mother is extremely manic, and my family and I have spent years being mad about her erratic behavior, spending sprees etc. This book helps to bring you back to a loving place with someone that has this illness. It helps you see that much of the time it is the disease talking and not the person. I am learning to forgive my Mother and recognize her behaviors much better now due to this book. I am coming to a place where I see I can’t save her,I can accept who she is, and be more loving about it. If you really care about someone with Bipolar and want to learn how to love them more, I suggest reading this book.
a great resourse for family members
Julie Fast constantly reminds the reader that bipolar is an illness and there is often a pattern to the mood swings. I used to think my daughter was just out of control all of the time. She could never settle down and she was always trying something new to make her life better. I understand this more now. I understand pyschosis more as well as the anger she often has when she’s sick. This book has helped us so much. I just never knew whether to leave her alone and let her mess up or to get involved and get her mad at me. Now I have tools and they work.
Suicide is my biggest worry, but we now have it out in the open. This helps me with my worry and guilt that I don’t or can’t do enough to help her.
This is a tough illness, but there is hope. Things are a lot less stressful for us now.
Straight talk, real help!
I have never seen this much information and level of detail in one place before. It has taken me years to collect this volume of information, some of it at a a very dear cost — here it is in one book. If you love someone with bipolar disorder, buy and read this book — every person in my family is getting their own copy. Many thanks to Fast and Preston!
A Relationship Saver – Literally
BUY this book, early
I honestly believe that having this book earlier in my condition and having a spouse who used the techniques described, would have saved my marriage and finances.
Very, very helpful
This is probably the most misdiagnosed mental disorder out there. For those who are new to it, it is extremely difficult to get help or find good real information on how to deal with it. We didn’t know how to manage Bipolar. There are many people out there who can live with this and have done so for many years, but for most of us it takes a lot of time, understanding, and acceptance that it exists and must be dealt with like any other illness. This book was written in real language by someone who has obviously walked the walk.
It has helped me tremendously as I feel it was written for me. This is a book about communication. Chapter eight “The Bipolar Conversation” was very helpful. We often refer back to the book. We understand life will not be easy with Bipolar but we get hope from Julie Fast and many others who suffer from it that you can in fact manage your life with Bipolar and lead a productive life. Thank you very much.
He has been able to go to it when he needs to find something out – when i am not able (or maybe not willing) to let him in. He has little bookmarks all through it!
The book explains things in a way that makes it easy to use (my husband isn’t big on reading), and it has exercises that can be done to help clarify matters – although he/we haven’t gotten past the digesting of extra infomation stage yet.
The book has helped him understand that there are reasons for some of the things I do when I’m not well, but doesn’t provide cop-outs. It helps him support me when i’m not well rather than hide and wonder what is happening.
This book makes links between behaviours that I hadn’t even realised were part of the illness and has gone a long way to improving our marriage – misunderstanding and lack of communication (due to my embarassment) was killing it.
I would highly recommend this book to all who want to understand more, and want to help their partner/loved one.
Absolutely the BEST book available!
Holding the bipolar spouse & partner responsible !!
More help than any therapist!
As a Buddhist, I know that “not arguing” is not co-dependence, and prevents unnecessary stress and hurt feelings for us both. It is a conscious, compassionate decision that sustains my own positive behavior & emotions, despite the stresses of his illness or any other negativity around me. I understand that some folks might feel this non-reaction is patronizing – but folks with BPD can be so self-centered! Partners have to refuse to be drawn into unnecessary drama.
The “bi-polar free zone” suggestion really works at our house, particularly in the evening when everybody’s tired. Creating the health cards is helping our 13-year-old daughter understand and deal with her father’s behavior.
The one thing I regret the book doesn’t discuss is the positive effect of good nutrition, not just avoiding junk food and caffeine.
May all our sufferings be eased.