Love at First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating

I would like to say that I know Laurie personally so there is a slight bias in this review. Laurie is, in my opinion, the foremost expert on online dating and she proves it with the material in this book. She’s living evidence that online dating works, has the success stories to prove it and from her experiences, she’s learned what works and what doesn’t. The online dating world, as Davis notes, is different than the offline one. There are new rules and with this book, you’ll be able to navigate it with confidence.

Laurie makes a point in her book – in fact, as part of the Love at First Click Commandments (to read before you even begin your foray into online dating) – to remember that “It only takes one”. As in, it only takes one great match to make the effort worth it. After reading her book, I want to add a few other “ones” that made me a Love at First Click believer:

- One hour – one hour of reading this book was all it took for me to get off the couch and back into the online dating world. Laurie swiftly debunks the myths and provides exactly the right practical insight, with a healthy dose of positive thinking, to inspire me to get back on the horse.
- One profile – Laurie does a great job of breaking down the features, pros, and cons of many of the major sites, so it was easy to determine where I fit best. I’m way too busy to waste time, like most people these days, so her guidance was incredibly helpful. Also, her tips on how to write the perfect profile really made me feel confident with the one I put out there.
- One week – Perhaps I’m an exception, but one week on the site was all it took to feel I’d earned back the 6 month membership fee to the site I had chosen. Laurie’s sound advice and insights on what to look for, how to craft a profile, and how to communicate better on the site were invaluable — I found a fantastic few matches already, and have even have a repeat (3 weeks later, we’re going on our 5th date this week!)
- One book – I referred back to the book several times throughout the process of getting started and keeping my online dating “game” en pointe — Laurie knows her stuff!

An update: Exactly one month after the first date, my click match and I are exclusive

Whether you’re about to jump into the world of online dating or a pro looking to expand your World Wide Winkisphere I can’t recommend Love at First Click highly enough. Laurie Davis is a fun and exciting author who provides all of the important information about kickstarting your love life online and making sure that you feel comfortable and excited throughout the whole process. From the first the profile upload to shutting down your profile because Laurie’s helped you find “The One” Love at First Click is there to advise and provide guidance through every step.

While there are many things to praise about both Laurie’s insight and her advice I think the thing that struck me most was the amount of actionable, real world advice she gives to online daters. After finishing Love at First Click you’ll not only have a new enthusiasm for the spirit of meeting people online you’ll also have a strong list of actionable items to make sure that your online experiences are fun, safe and exciting. It’s like reading Old Man and the Sea if Ernest Hemingway taught you EXACTLY how to catch a giant fish.

In short, an informative and wise book written by a fun and exciting author that is a must for anyone interested in getting Cupid to his the “Reply” button.

It’s my frist kindle book, and I’ve really enjoyed the book! It provides some good insight and ideas on how to best present yourself online. Easy tips that can help people with their online profile.

One in five relationships starts online these days. That’s eFlirt Expert Laurie Davis’s assertion and I believe her. Why? Because of my last two relationships, both of them started online. Of my last 20+ dates, all but one were organized through an online dating service.

When I’m in dating mode, I turn to my computer. And then I obsess over what to write, what photos to post, how witty I should try to be, how quickly I should respond, how…, what…, why…, when…… It’s maddening!

I got my review copy of “Love At First Click” in December when I was just considering dipping my toes back into the dating pool, so the timing was perfect. And her advice is absolutely stellar. From choosing your best picture (did you know that you should wear red?), to why your first meeting is not a date, to how vulnerable you should be so you’re open without causing your match to run for the hills, to how to compose the perfect introductory email, she’s got it all. She even includes a successful real-life email exchange to show how it’s done.

But that’s just the beginning – she also helps you to make the transition from online to offline with grace, which is often one of the most daunting parts of the process. And so much more.

The tone of the book is lighthearted – appropriate for a best-friend-shares-her-secrets book like this. And I trust Laurie because her own online dating story began way back during the time of online bulletin boards, and she met her fiance through Twitter!

New to online dating? Get this book and make it your bible. An experienced online dater? Get this book and make it your reference guide. Seriously, there’s that much good stuff in it!
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FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Atria Books for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.

Most of the advice is consistent with other dating advice books, with the twist of specifically pointing out the differences between online approaches and old fashioned face to face chance meeting approaches.

However, there are too many references to stilettos and specific gadgets. The easy, breezy, cool girl about the city voice didn’t resonate with me, and product placement mentions are off putting. I realize that this is part of trying to convey a certain vibe, but I just found it irritating.

Still, it’s worth a read. Unlike “The Rules” (and related books) the author does not focus of you changing your whole look to attract “The One”, or being disingenuously coy. The focus is on practical directions and techniques for online presentation, and the etiquette for how to comport oneself in the online dating world. The author explains how to navigate your way to getting the most out of a site, based on how it matches people. She includes examples on how to conduct a useful email exchange (and how not to).

I saw this book advertised on Twitter, and initially thought it wasn’t for me – after all, I have a dating profile and know my way around a conversation. But the price and the idea of improving my dating life were too great to pass up, and I’m glad I gave this book a chance.

Without ever making me feel guilty or stupid, Laurie’s words showed me both exactly what I was doing wrong as well as why what I thought was working really wasn’t. Impressed by the first few chapters, I went ahead and gave it the ultimate test – rewriting my dating profile AND starting a new profile on a second site. Laurie’s advice walked me through every step of the way, and kept me from making the mistakes that kept me from getting into good conversations and setting up successful dates. It’s only been two days, and already I’ve had more targeted, interested responses to both profiles than I had in my first three months of online dating. Consider me a skeptic converted.

If you’re on the fence about this book, or frustrated about how your dating life is turning out lately, do yourself a favor and give this book a chance. You will not regret it.

The guide is well written and well laid out. Allows you to set up an online account with ease.
Ideal for the first timer, but I was able to "e-makeover" my profiles and streamline my "about me’s".

Great book for online dating. I am a therapist who works with people on finding a mate. This book is the go to guide for dating online and it is what I refer to clients. It is presented in a practical,concise and easy to read manner. It is the best out there.

It’s not often that a book lives up to its proclamation of being the “ultimate guide” to such-and-such. And when it comes to something as ever-evolving as online dating, the possibility of covering everything you need to know on the topic in under 300 pages is impossible…right? Not when the person writing the guide is Laurie Davis, the eFlirtExpert and author of the new book, Love at First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating.If the word didn’t conjure up images of all-night cram sessions, I’d be tempted to call Love at First Click the textbook of online dating. It’s that informative and detailed

Bottom Line: This is the single most informative book on online dating I’ve ever come across. And with her encouraging, upbeat tone, Laurie Davis will have you excited about your eDating prospects even if you’ve been overwhelmed or frustrated by the process in the past. A must read for anyone navigating the digital dating scene.