One in five relationships starts on an online dating site, but little straightforward guidance exists for users. Enter digital dating whisperer Laurie Davis . . .
In a world where we communicate as much via texts as we do through body language, this book empowers readers to log on and double click for love, taking them through the journey all online daters face—from choosing the right site, creating a profile, and navigating dates, to logging off with their perfect match.
Love @ First Click is every online dater’s guide to exploring the web with no-fail techniques. For example, uploading the right photos can attract someone who might otherwise pass you over. Setting a time limit on the first meet-up can leave your date excited to see you again. And the phrasing in your date’s thank-you text after dinner can uncover how your click mate really feels about you.
Whether you’re a digital dating vet or virgin, this is the ultimate guide to online dating that will take your online crush to offline love.
- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: Atria Books; Original edition (January 8, 2013)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1451687036
- ISBN-13: 978-1451687033
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
All It Takes Is ONE
- One hour – one hour of reading this book was all it took for me to get off the couch and back into the online dating world. Laurie swiftly debunks the myths and provides exactly the right practical insight, with a healthy dose of positive thinking, to inspire me to get back on the horse.
- One profile – Laurie does a great job of breaking down the features, pros, and cons of many of the major sites, so it was easy to determine where I fit best. I’m way too busy to waste time, like most people these days, so her guidance was incredibly helpful. Also, her tips on how to write the perfect profile really made me feel confident with the one I put out there.
- One week – Perhaps I’m an exception, but one week on the site was all it took to feel I’d earned back the 6 month membership fee to the site I had chosen. Laurie’s sound advice and insights on what to look for, how to craft a profile, and how to communicate better on the site were invaluable — I found a fantastic few matches already, and have even have a repeat (3 weeks later, we’re going on our 5th date this week!)
- One book – I referred back to the book several times throughout the process of getting started and keeping my online dating “game” en pointe — Laurie knows her stuff!
An update: Exactly one month after the first date, my click match and I are exclusive
It’s a chick-lit book.
However, there are too many references to stilettos and specific gadgets. The easy, breezy, cool girl about the city voice didn’t resonate with me, and product placement mentions are off putting. I realize that this is part of trying to convey a certain vibe, but I just found it irritating.
Still, it’s worth a read. Unlike “The Rules” (and related books) the author does not focus of you changing your whole look to attract “The One”, or being disingenuously coy. The focus is on practical directions and techniques for online presentation, and the etiquette for how to comport oneself in the online dating world. The author explains how to navigate your way to getting the most out of a site, based on how it matches people. She includes examples on how to conduct a useful email exchange (and how not to).
Fast times and modern highs
The book makes clear that in large cities today’s dating sites provide tremendous traffic and many daters can find themselves overbooked with choices. This depends on the way you run your life. I’m old enough to be uncomfortable with advice on romantic entanglements with more than one person at a time. Davis’ advice usually avoids this perspective, but not always. People had a presumption against multi-threading their love life when Katz wrote, so I liked his book better. But I gave Davis the same four-star rating because I think she may be a better match for some groups of people in their 20s.
[Practical note after more experience: On line dating gave me great matches faster than I could handle. I ended up choosing somebody before I was anywhere near finished with the list of good choices available. Even if Davis advice seems awkward, think about how you would handle those situations.]
Katz also offers new and practical advice for coordinating texting and other social media with dating sites. Most of it is common sense, but the point of a book like this is to reassure you that (a) there’s nothing surprising here you haven’t thought of and (b) yes people will notice if you’re lazy about some of the steps.
If you’re involved in online dating and you haven’t read one of these books, visit your public library and see if you’re missing anything. If people have complained that your profile isn’t up to snuff, then plunk down some money at the cash register (You’re here on Amazon, after all) and get to work.
Best wishes for success in finding the love of your life!
No one knows this topic better, period.
Didn’t quite click with me
“However, there are too many references to stilettos and specific gadgets. The easy, breezy, cool girl about the city voice didn’t resonate with me, and product placement mentions are off putting. I realize that this is part of trying to convey a certain vibe, but I just found it irritating”.
Being an introvert there were a lot of suggestions that didn’t appeal to me either. I’m not one to go all out to impress someone, I like to keep it real and be relaxed when I meet someone for the first time. I don’t fully buy into the whole first impressions hype, sometimes they can be misleading. Shinny on the outside, rotten on the inside.
The “working” it atmosphere of the book doesn’t fit my personality or style either and I feel she didn’t address or give suggestions for the different personality types that are out there. At least a few would of been helpful.
The book is more geared towards women and men who live a certain life style, are extremely social, extroverted and work in the white collar corporate world. Which is fine if we all lived like that.
Over all it was a well thought out book but for a certain type and group of people. It just fell short of my expectations and I don’t think it will appeal to people who don’t live the “Sex in the City” life style.
Well Written Guide
Ideal for the first timer, but I was able to "e-makeover" my profiles and streamline my "about me’s".
Great insight on how to present yourself online
Great advice I wish I found sooner!
Without ever making me feel guilty or stupid, Laurie’s words showed me both exactly what I was doing wrong as well as why what I thought was working really wasn’t. Impressed by the first few chapters, I went ahead and gave it the ultimate test – rewriting my dating profile AND starting a new profile on a second site. Laurie’s advice walked me through every step of the way, and kept me from making the mistakes that kept me from getting into good conversations and setting up successful dates. It’s only been two days, and already I’ve had more targeted, interested responses to both profiles than I had in my first three months of online dating. Consider me a skeptic converted.
If you’re on the fence about this book, or frustrated about how your dating life is turning out lately, do yourself a favor and give this book a chance. You will not regret it.
If online dating is a jungle then Laurie Davis is the perfect guide for your safari.
While there are many things to praise about both Laurie’s insight and her advice I think the thing that struck me most was the amount of actionable, real world advice she gives to online daters. After finishing Love at First Click you’ll not only have a new enthusiasm for the spirit of meeting people online you’ll also have a strong list of actionable items to make sure that your online experiences are fun, safe and exciting. It’s like reading Old Man and the Sea if Ernest Hemingway taught you EXACTLY how to catch a giant fish.
In short, an informative and wise book written by a fun and exciting author that is a must for anyone interested in getting Cupid to his the “Reply” button.