Is it Romantic Armageddon or Uncomfortable
Shoes?
13 Warning Signs You're About
To Get Dumped!
By Lisa Daily
Want to know if your relationship
is about to hit the skids?
Looking for tell-tale signs
that your love will last through next week?
Well, look no further. Below
you'll find the "Unlucky 13" -13
warning signs you're about to get dumped.
We surveyed a variety of experts
to find the most common warning signs a person
is about to get dumped --including psychologists,
body language experts, graphologists, private
investigators and a divorce attorney. And
here's what we found:
1. Is it romantic Armageddon,
or uncomfortable shoes?
Where the toes point, the heart
follows. According to body language expert
Patti Wood, MA, CSP, you should, "look
at your sweetie's feet when you are out with
other people." She says, "if they
are pointed at you, great." If they're
pointed at someone else, your partner may
be looking to walk.
2. You're starting to feel
like a telemarketer.
Is your sweetie anxious to end
phone conversations right away? A person who
knows she's going to end the relationship
with you, but hasn't done so yet will be itching
to get off the phone with you. If she is talking
to you, but not adding anything to the conversation
it's sign she is heading towards the finish
line. She's probably just pacing herself.
3. He's no longer interested
in sex, or worse, he has a new bag of tricks
and a trapeze with the tags still on it.
A dramatic change in sexual
behavior can mean two things:
a) He wants to avoid any situation
where he might have to express emotion or
attachment to you, or
b) He's getting it somewhere
else.
4. He avoids talking about the
future.
We're not just talking the general,
garden-variety aversion that men have to discussing
relationships. We're talking about a man who
avoids having one of those "we have to
talk" talks like it's a shot of the Plague.
As for the future, when next Thursday seems
like too much of a commitment, it could be
because he's trying to extricate himself by
Wednesday night.
5. He says, "I need
some space" or "I think we should
see other people."
According to psychologist Jesse
Rabinowitz, Ph.D, people don't usually want
to hurt someone else, so they use "exit
strategies." By telling you he wants
to see other people, he's not technically
breaking up with you (so no big crying scene
to endure) but he's given himself a way out.
Of course, the second he gets a little distance,
he's going to make a run for it.
6. If she's looking left,
something's not right.
According to Bill Raduenz, private
investigator, a person who looks up into the
air and to the left when she speaks to you
is "not being truthful." The look
left is an indication we're using the "creative"
side of our brains and a good indicator she's
telling you a whopper.
7. He gives you that little
pat on the back.
Watch out for this one. A person
who gives you a hug while patting you on the
back is indicating that they are uneasy. According
to Raduenz, the "hand pat" on the
back indicates someone is uncomfortable with
what they're doing. The bigger the pat, the
more discomfort they feel.
There's more. Another important
sign that things may not be going well is
the amount of contact during a hug. Full frontal
contact is good. The one-shoulder hug, or
pulling away in other areas could be a sign
the person is "distancing" in the
relationship. If it's a new relationship,
the other person may not be quite ready for
that level of physical contact. If it's an
established relationship, it could be a sign
the person is pulling away, or getting ready
to break off the relationship.
8. You don't like what you
see in the mirror.
People mirror each other's body
language when they are in love with similar
gestures, voice volume, etc. If you're noticing
the two of you are out of sync, you probably
are.
That's not all. According to
body language expert Wood, a person who is
about to dump you will display a lack of open
"windows" towards you. "Windows"
being his heart, eyes, neck and palms. If
your man turns his heart (the center of his
chest) away from you as you are talking to
each other, it's a big sign he's not interested.
9. You see the writing on
the wall.
According to graphologist Karen
Weinberg, QDE, a person who is thinking of
ending a relationship will show clues in her
handwriting. When writing the word "love"
she may begin to drop down the letter "e."
Another sign to watch for is if your partner
diminishes the size of your name (sign of
your importance to her.)
10. Every normal person should
know which way the toilet paper goes...
If she's picking silly fights,
or there's an unusual increase in emotional
distance, you've got bad news. According to
Melvyn Frumkes, an attorney specializing in
divorce, "a person who picks nonsensical
arguments is trying to get the other person
(you) to make the first move."
11. He keeps you waiting.
And waiting. And waiting.
"Time is an important non-verbal
communicator," says Wood. If he keeps
you waiting, it's a sign his interest is waning,
and a sign of disrespect.
This is true for dates as well.
If he starts waiting until the very last minute
to make date plans with you, it's likely he's
lost interest, or he's hoping something better
will come along and he's using you as a back-up.
12. She buys a personal pager,
or a pre-paid cell phone.
This is bad news. Just about
every private investigator in the book will
tell you the pager purchase is a sign of impending
heartbreak. Sure, it could be for work, but
more likely, she's using it to get a head
start on her post-you life. Beep Beep - Bye
Bye.
13. He used to be a three-blue-shirts-and-four-pair-of-Chinos
kind of guy, and suddenly he's obsessed with
Armani.
According to Attorney Mel Frumkes,
a person who is about to leave (or is cheating)
will take greater care with his appearance
- updating his wardrobe, losing weight, working
out and even changing cologne. If your sweetie
looks like he just finished taping an episode
of "A Makeover Story" - Those Chinos
might not be the only dud he's looking to
lose.
Want to know when you're most
likely to get the axe? Most experts agree
it's somewhere in the neighborhood of the
first 3-5 months. So, stock up on tissues
and Ben & Jerry's if you're heading into
the danger zone.
Only time (and his shoes) will
tell.

TV Dating Coach Lisa
Daily is the bestselling author of two
dating books Stop
Getting Dumped!, How
to Date Like a Grownup and the totally
relatable and hilarious, Romantic Times
Readers' Choice Award novel Fifteen
Minutes of Shame. You’ve seen her
everywhere from Entertainment Tonight
to the HITCH movie DVD